Shirk (associating partners with Allaah) comes in different shades and forms. I’m not here to go into the academic discussion of its divisions, but I’ll like to call our attention to the things people do all in the name of love and sex, thereby falling into one category of shirk or the other.
In those days, our scholars travelled from East to west in search of a single hadith. Despite the overwhelming amount of knowledge and information available to us today for free, it’s quite appalling that we still wallow in abject ignorance, and do things without searching for the authenticity and acceptability.
When you fall in love with a woman, do istikhaara and walk up to her or her waliyy. The worst answer you can get is a “no”. They can’t kill you for pursuing your desire. They can’t crucify you for trying to satisfy your natural instinct in a halaal way. Rejection of a proposal is not the end of the world. When you go overboard and make use of amulets and talisman, it means:
1. You have committed shirk
2. You have refused to accept fate and predestination as a major article of faith
3. You have failed to put your trust in Allaah
It was narrated from Zaynab the wife of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood from ‘Abd-Allaah who said: “I heard the Messenger of Allaah (saw) say, ‘Indeed, spells (ruqah), amulets and love-charms are shirk…” (Aboo Dawood, Ibn Maajah, Classed saheeh by Albaanee).
In trying to achieve contraception without the knowledge of their husbands, some women use rings, wrist bands and waist beads on which magical spells have been cast. These magicians, alfas or pastors employ the services of jinns, but they lie to them that they’ve only recited some verses of the Qur’an. How about convincing your husband to accompany you to the family planning clinic, get counselling and opt for an appropriate method that can suit your needs?
I heard that some cultures prepare certain love potions for new brides on their wedding nights. They want them to look beautiful and irresistible. They want to be the favourite among the wives in polygamous marriages. They want to satisfy their husbands in bed forever and make their private parts as good as new. Why? When did marriage become a competition? When did sex become oxygen that you can’t live without? When did few minutes of pleasure become more important than your faith and hereafter?
The worst set of people are those who break marital bonds in order to step in and hijack the wife from her husband or vice versa. They have morbid greed for other people’s spouses. It’s a craving they can’t help until they capture their preys. In Qur’an chapter 2 verse 102, Allaah mentioned that one of the main purposes for which magic was used in the time of Prophet Sulaiman (AS) was to cause discord between couples.
Don’t be surprised that some conscious muslims have been victims as well as culprits in this matter. The good news is that Allaah is oft-forgiving, All-Merciful. You can still repent today. Shirk is a grave sin. You can’t afford to die in that state.
No man or woman is indispensable. Don’t lose your sanity in the quest for love. Don’t trade your faith for a transient feeling of ecstasy. Don’t trade the eternity of paradise for a few years of spellbound union. Fear Allaah!
“… and the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment.” (Qur’an chapter 57 verse 20)