Whenever I plan to visit any of my girlfriends (most of whom are married women), I try to prepare a set of topics to be discussed. Islaam, career, food, fashion… Anything aside from HUSBANDS. I just dread discussions about husbands. We can talk about food without gossiping. We can discuss fashion without calling names. But when we start to talk about husbands, chances are high that we would fall into the purest, premium form of gossip.
When you begin to tell me how romantic your husband is, how do you want me to feel if my husband is the old school, military type who doesn’t know how to exhibit the fairy tale kind of romance?
When you gist me that your husband gives you 100k pocket money monthly, what do you want me to call my husband who is still owing me part of my mahr?
Please, assist me by not making me feel jealous of your love life. Tell me you’re doing great but don’t give me the details. Don’t let me get home and start looking at my husband like he’s a loser.
You will hardly find responsible married men back biting their wives because the whole time would have been spent on either sports or politics. That’s why I love Maryam Adekola Alatishe, she feeds me with all the updates in the world of football, lol!
Gossiping and back biting are sinful already; how much more when it is about our husbands?!
“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful”. (Quran chapter 49 verse 12)