Sisters complain that brothers are not romantic before marriage. Brothers complain that sisters are not s*xy after marriage. What exactly is going on here?! I don’t want to pick on the Abus tonight… But, you see ehn, ummus, it is easier for us to overlook their “unromanticness” at times. But their own brains are not wired to ignore any laxity on our part. Before you know it, they will start pasting Quran 4 verse 3 on your face. Lobatan.
How can an educated and enlightened woman be tying wrapper around her chest up and down in the house? It’s 2016 fa? After spending the entire day seeing half naked ladies at work and on the streets, hubby will come home and be seeing you in long skirts and turtleneck? Come on! Go to the market and buy spagettis, tubes, bum shorts… and if you don’t have much money, buy “graded okrika” ones and wash with dettol before you wear. Your life will never remain the same!
I know there are some men who can’t just control themselves, whatever you do. But don’t let his waywardness be your fault. Don’t let it be a case of “she pushed him out”. Don’t just lie down there and expect him to enjoy the missionary style every single time! Variety, they say, is the spice of life. Stop using pregnancy and breastfeeding as excuses for “closing shop” indefinitely. It’s not fair! Ask your doctor if you’re in doubt. Ask the people of knowledge if you do not know (Al-Quran).
I’m sure you understand more than I’ve said. May Allaah forgive us all. Aameen.